Faith, Fun & Romance in a Godly Marriage

Marriage is a beautiful journey, but let’s be real—keeping the spark alive takes intentionality! Between work, kids, church, and everyday responsibilities, it’s easy for passion to take a backseat.

But here’s the truth, sis: God designed marriage to be full of love, joy, and connection—not just duty. A thriving marriage isn’t just about surviving—it’s about flourishing together.

If you’re feeling like the fire has dimmed, don’t worry. You can reignite the passion and excitement in your marriage. Here’s The Uncommon Wife’s Guide to keeping the spark alive!

Prioritize Friendship First

Before you were husband and wife, you were friends. One of the best ways to reignite the spark is to laugh together, enjoy each other’s company, and create new memories.

📖 Proverbs 17:17 says:
"A friend loves at all times."

If your marriage feels a little stale, ask yourself: When was the last time we truly had fun together?

💡 Spark-Tip: Plan a date night where fun—not just romance—is the goal. Go bowling, take a dance class, play a card game, or revisit a favorite restaurant from your early dating days!

Be Playful & Flirt Like You Used To

Flirting shouldn’t stop after dating! Keep your marriage fun by bringing back inside jokes, playful teasing, and unexpected surprises.

✅ Wink at him across the room.
✅ Steal a kiss when he least expects it.
✅ Wear that perfume he loves.
✅ Whisper something sweet (or spicy 👀) in his ear.

💡 Spark-Tip: Leave a fun sticky note on his mirror that says, "Meet me at 8 PM for a surprise!" and plan a mini at-home date night.

Speak Each Other’s Love Language

You might be showing love—but does your husband feel loved?

📖 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 reminds us:
"Love is patient, love is kind... it is not self-seeking."

Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages (Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical Touch, and Gifts) help us understand how our spouse receives love.

💡 Spark-Tip: Take 5 minutes to ask your husband, “What makes you feel most loved by me?” Then, commit to doing something this week based on his response!

Keep the Romance Alive with Small Gestures

Romance isn’t just big vacations or fancy dinners—it’s built in the small, consistent moments.

✅ Leave him a sweet note in his car or lunch.
✅ Send a flirty text during the day.
✅ Give him a long hug or kiss—just because!
✅ Cook his favorite meal and set the table with candles.

📖 Song of Solomon 1:2 says:
"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine."

💡 Spark-Tip: Try a “7-Day Romance Challenge” where you do one romantic thing for your husband every day!

Pray for Passion & Intimacy

Yes, sis—you can pray for your intimacy! God created passion within marriage. If you’re struggling with connection, ask God to restore excitement, desire, and emotional closeness.

📖 Ecclesiastes 9:9 says:
"Enjoy life with the wife whom you love."

💡 Spark-Tip: Pray together before intimacy. It deepens connection and invites God’s presence into your marriage.

Don’t Neglect Self-Care & Confidence

Confidence is attractive! Taking care of yourself mentally, spiritually, and physically isn’t about vanity—it’s about showing up as your best self in your marriage.

📖 Proverbs 31:22 says:
"She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple."

✅ Take time to recharge—read, rest, or do something you enjoy.
✅ Dress in a way that makes you feel confident and beautiful.
✅ Get active—not for looks, but for energy and well-being.

💡 Spark-Tip: Surprise your husband by dressing up just for him—even if you’re just staying home!

Schedule Regular “Marriage Check-Ins”

Strong marriages don’t just happen—they’re built. Regularly checking in on your relationship helps prevent small issues from turning into big problems.

📖 Amos 3:3 says:
"Can two walk together unless they agree?"

Once a month, sit down together and discuss:
✅ What’s been going well in our marriage?
✅ What’s one area we can improve?
✅ How can we better support each other?

💡 Spark-Tip: End your check-in by praying for each other and speaking words of appreciation!

Final Encouragement: Your Marriage is Worth It!

Sis, a thriving marriage doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when two people intentionally choose love, joy, and connection—daily.

No matter what season you’re in, God is able to restore, renew, and reignite the passion in your marriage.

🔥 Your challenge this week: Pick one tip from this list and put it into action!

💬 Comment below: What’s one way you keep the spark alive in your marriage?

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